At certain junctions in our life, it is ideal take a “pause” to do some self-inventory, to reflect and to ask ourselves those life tough questions: who am I? Where am I headed? Am I living life with purpose? Am I fulfilling my dreams and vision? Am I growing and developing? Am I wasting my time? Am I living to my fullest potential? A life without self-assessment is an accident going somewhere to happen; it’s only a matter of time. I believe there are no, there are only. Where you, someone has been there, someone else.
Every success leaves a clue likewise every failure, pain, and regrets. Wisdom, therefore, teaches that we should learn from those who have taken those paths we are about to take or the ones we are currently taking. As I reflect back through life, this was one of the questions that come to mind; what would I have done differently if I had the opportunity to turn back the hands of time? If time could reverse itself 15 – 20 years backward, what decision would I have taken differently, be it, career decision, academic, relational, marital, family, business, religious, monetary, or investment decision?
In light of, I reach out to friends and families, mentors and leaders some of their life regrets, past pain, hurt and things they wish they would have had the time. And as I share their story, my aim is to find wisdom and compass to navigate, they will find healing through their scars and solace through their pain.
However, one of. Even if we sometimes think, that taking a certain decision and certain choices would have guaranteed outcomes, yet eventually, life still happens. Sometimes people get sick not because, people lose, not because they at it and because they’ve done. Life just happens.
Nevertheless, every story has a lesson, be it a lesson on what to do or what not to do and that’s what this article aims to achieve. Through a series of interviews I conducted in light of this subject I got a wide range of answers, some which stem from the regrets of past relationships, career choice, marital decision, family time to mention a few. One of my respondents asserts:
Daniel, I look back at my life now and I regret I didn’t spend more time with my little daughter while she was growing up a little girl. I provided every necessary thing for the family, but I didn’t give more of physical presence, that today, I really regret.
A family is pivotal to our life pursuit; children need their parent’s warmth and togetherness in life. It is not always about the financial support we provide for them as parents; T.D Jakes once said: “It’s not what we leave for our children that really count the most, but what we leave in them.” The only way they can sustain is living for them is by investing more in them and that be done more time with them.” as this may be, it is ideal to seek a balance aspect of life.
Daniel Cole is an International Motivational Speaker, Inspirational writer, Columnist and a Published Authour.