Nothing crippled a man’s journey to success other than fear and doubt. As humans, we are all meant to have fear, fear of uncertainty and fear of the unknown, but if we are going to reach our fullest height, our zenith we shouldn’t give in to fear. Fear not well manage will hold you hostage keep you stagnated, and make you function or operate at the least of your competence level. Those who fall victims of fear are always having excuses at their slip. E.g. I don’t have enough resources, I wasn’t ready, It’s wasn’t my fault, it was raining, it wasn’t the right time, am too young, am too old, am black, am white, am coloured to name a few. Oprah Winfrey once said, Sexism is the greatest deterrent for sexism and racism.
People don’t just grow up to become fearful of taking action or attempting things outside their comfort zone, fear can be instilled by parents from childhood. Negative remarks like “You are good for nothing” you can’t ever get anything done right, you are naughty and that’s why always fail your exams, do you think money grows on trees, you are so dumb, to name a few. All of these condescending and negative remark sink into the child’s subconscious mind and this completely alter their expectations from life.
Another factor that contributes to fear is repeated failed attempts. It is natural and rational to be weary of trying something new, most especially when you have experienced some setbacks in life. But we shouldn’t allow our mind to be conditioned by our past failures Zig Ziglar once said “What is worth doing is worth doing wrongly, until you get it right.” Peter Drucker, one of the world most respected management expert said “The better a man is, the more mistakes he will make, for the more new things he will try. I would never promote a man to a top level job who did not make mistake.”
Fear is an invincible chain, if not well properly contained can reduce a giant to a mere man. In life there are no guarantees we just have to try to see how things would turn out. A business man who stocked his store with products has no 100% guarantee that customers or buyer would show up, but with faith coupled with action he believes that someone out there would need what he’s selling and eventually someone will show up. No one stays on the shore to determine the depth of the sea.
The only way to see if an idea would work is to test it, the only way to know if you will get a multinational job is by applying for it. Never draw a conclusion over what hasn’t been attempted, that would mean you quit even before starting. Fear never builds it always destroys, if you believe education is too expensive the byproduct is you will remain in perpetual ignorance and become envious, angry, and bitter when friends and families who make the investment amidst fear are making waves. Let this word sink in, “I can” and “I will” even when you attempt and fail, at least you have succeeded from the fear of not attempting at all.
Martin Luther King Jr once said “Take the first step in faith you don’t have to see the whole stairs, just take the first step in faith. Don’t let fear rob you of your talents, skills and potentials. Don’t let your dreams die with you because you are afraid you won’t get support if you attempt. I hope this article will stir you up to give attention to your intentions, to rise above your fear, to act in faith, even amidst doubt and when you do, you will see that the only force that has been holding you back is you – Your Thought. Stop postponing, stop waiting for inspiration, if you work the only day you are inspired, you won’t get much done in life, stop waiting for all resources to be available, stop waiting for everybody’s validation, stop saying am too young or am too old, am too skinny and too fat/stout. You can’t be so sure of the outcome until you try.
Daniel Cole is an International Motivational Speaker, Inspirational writer, Columnist and a Published Authour.